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Sunday, June 30, 2013

Coping With Same-Other

The size, the density, and the heterogeneity of complex culture can be intimidating. The mixture and percentages of the complexity are different for each community. Some of it is observable, but other aspects are less perceptible. Visible complexity will be characteristics like race, language, culture, or class. Less visible might include generational, ideological, or religious aspects. Whether visible or obscure, each church has a unique cultural context in which to minister.

The likelihood is that most metropolitan churches are already ministering in communities where the majority of people living there are different in some way from those attending the church. This prospect raises the question, “How does the church cope with other?”
Whatever the mixture or the percentage of complex culture, each church needs to discover several things. First of all, “What is the make-up and size of the complexity in your church’s community?” Secondly, “What are the needs your church might be able to meet?” And finally, “Will your church reach out to them?”[1]
Other questions we can ask are, “How do people cope with large numbers of people who are different?” “How are people able to navigate and remain oriented in complex culture?”
Lyn Lofland, an expert in dealing with issues surrounding “same—other,” suggests that we can learn to cope with large numbers of strangers by identifying the differences between us, while being respectful of other people.[2] There are several strategies people use to cope with their perception of “other.”
1.      One of the first ways people deal with the “other” they experience is to observe appearance, or how people look. For example, Roman citizens wore white togas. Purple in Europe has been the color of royals; professors and lawyers (along with wigs) wore unique robes. Today, professionals like priests, nurses, bus drivers wear occupation specific uniforms. Business executives wear dark suits. College professors often wear tweed jackets, slacks with a loose or an absent tie, and professional women often wear suits.
In complex culture the variety becomes so great and the appearance so varied that one can come to false conclusions. One example is that many people mistakenly consider Sikhs to be Muslims because they wear turbans.
2.   A second way people attempt to cope with “other” is by considering where they see someone they do not know—or place. Young people on a campus can often be assumed to be students. People dressed in suits in an office district are presumed to be business people. One negative example of this, African-Americans driving cars in predominantly white areas are often stopped by the police, because it is assumed they are not in the right place (DWB—driving while black). Most people tend to keep to places where they feel safe.
3.   If appearance does not let us know, or geography tips us off, a third possibility of coping with strangers is personal interaction; ask social class questions. For example, when a visitor comes into our church, their appearance may not help us. We know where they are, so some our first interaction is to ask the questions, "Where are you from?" "What do you do for a living?" or "Where do you go to school?"
If the church is a community, what should it look like?
What kind of a community is your church?
How do your people engage new people who visit your church? 
How does your church compare with the examples above?
Do you view your church as a community?


[1] A good resource to find answers to these and other questions, is “Reconnecting the Church: Finding Our Place in Complex Culture,” by J. Timothy Kauffman.
[2] Lofland, Lyn. A World of Strangers. New Your: Basic Books, 1973, p. 45.

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